we’re looking for a new church home. Mainly ’cause, through studying the Word for ourselves) discovered that certain aspects of the teaching we were receiving is not scriptural. What’s wrong with churches/pastors? are they all messed up?

I have a couple of things I want to say. First I will, without hesitation, pray for you to find a place where you and your family can grow and get stronger in your faith. Second, as far as church homes go, unfortunately “happily ever after” just doesn’t exist because it really isn’t God’s design. In short, churches are simply imperfect and only partially functional in scope. Please allow me to explain…

Churches, as we know them, are organizations founded, run, operated, and attended by imperfect people; this is nothing new. Everyone, and I do mean everyone is less than perfect. No, not even the Pastors are perfect. We have all fallen and will fall again as long as we keep living… “Saved, sanctified, and filled with the Holy Ghost” does not automatically imply perfect, right, responsible, or even friendly for that matter… it just means forgiven and it would serve you well to keep that in mind while looking for the “perfect” place to go.

For added perspective, just read some of the Apostle Paul’s letters to the early churches in the New Testament. On one hand it’s good to know they were just as messed up back then as we are now. But on the other hand it also underscores the fact that no church is perfect and everywhere you go there will be something that doesn’t quite line up with the whole of scripture. But I personally believe that’s part of the journey and part of God’s divine design. Isn’t that why we go to church in the first place? To learn how to be more like Christ, even though we never fully obtaining perfection?

Now, don’t get me wrong, there are certain things that simply cannot/should not be ignored under any circumstance. But there are also endless numbers of disputable matters in the Bible, in the Faith, and in the church that keep members, congregations, denominations, and Pastors/Leaders at odds. Ultimately, faith and, to a large degree, Christianity, remain an ever unraveling mystery to everyone who is earnestly and truly involved. The only thing we can or at least should all agree on is that everyone is imperfect and everyone is most certainly wrong about something. (unless we’re talking about you… because we know you’re right about everything. Lol j/k fam.)

Look sir, my point is this… everywhere you go imperfect people and contradictory, if not out and out flawed Theology, are waiting. If this move is truly about a dispute in theology and/or doctrine feel free to move… But be prepared to be confronted with some other challenges in this area no matter where you go. Again, I strongly recommend you read the Apostle Paul’s admonitions to the early churches concerning the disputes over what was right and what was wrong in the church. It will help you a lot.

On the other hand, if you feel you are moving because God is telling you to move and just because you have some disagreement thane that’s an entirely different conversation. In my mind’s eye, churches are like schools. Some are Elementary Schools, some Middle Schools, some High Schools, and still other are like Colleges and Universities for Christians. So, just because you outgrow the teachings and realize it’s time to graduate from one school to the next, it doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with the first school. That school got you to this point, it served its God ordained purpose in your life at that time and now it’s simply time to graduate. I just don’t believe it’s God’s design that people become permanently attached to churches and Pastors.

The DNA of the church is to equip and then commission. If you are to continue to grow in the Lord at the rate He desires for you to grow, you’ll continue to graduate from each church you ever attend. There’s nothing wrong with that. God wants us to continue pursuing Him to higher and higher levels of knowledge and intimacy… We simply can’t and won’t do that if we allow ourselves to be seduced by comfort, routine, status, and/or familiarity. We must be ready to go when God says go. God wants us attached to Him and not some place, position, or Pastor at a local church or within a specific congregations.

Look there’s nothing wrong with loving your church and loving your Pastor. Thank and praise God for them both… But when the Lord says move you need to make sure there aren’t any unholy allegiances that would prevent you from being obedient. Many Christians are prisoners of their own unhealthy alliances and interdependencies to a specific pastor or congregation. God can’t use them the way He wants because they refuse to move when He says move. Imagine a 30 y/o still in Elementary school simply because they like the Principal or their art Teacher so much they feel obligated to stay. Love the Teacher, appreciate the teacher, thank the teacher… then graduate.

Hope that helps sir.

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Ask me anything… Relationships, Faith, Marriage, Life, etc…

I really think you are a Pastor and you just don’t know. What do you have against your gifts to be a Pastor?

um… Ok, I appreciate what I’m fairly certain you meant as a compliment and which I am accepting as such.. It really means a lot to me that you have some level of respect for what I do… But I must say this rather forward assertion really underscores some issues I have with the way we “do” church.

By you proposing that I am “a Pastor and I just don’t know” it presumes a great deal. I would guess you have been around long enough to have developed some secondary knowledge of what I do online and have made you assessment from that… If so, I don’t know how you could possibly assume I have anything at all against the title, the office, or the people who have accepted the call to Pastor a church. I think a better question might be what makes you so sure I am a Pastor? My gifts? If so that confuses me…

What are gifts that they are automatically assumed to identify calling? A “gift” is NOT a calling. Many are “gifted”, talented, and charismatic leaders, speakers, and teachers. That does not mean that they should presume to be counted as so. (James 3:1) My point is this, and I’ve said this before, charisma ensures neither content nor character. That simply can not and must not be our primary barometer for establishing leadership.

For example: how do we separate what one might call a “learned skill” from what we might consider a “spiritual gift”? What is to be said of God’s timing, preparation, and patience? Further, who said a “calling” was automatically INTO a title or role? John the Baptist was called right? Called to what? He was called out to the “wilderness”, not into the synagogues. What if there are those who may actually be called away? Is their calling any less credible?

I just find it disturbing how readily people assume that just because you are good at something you must be “called” to do it. I believe this is how many well intended men and women of God get swept up in the currents of charisma and assume roles they have neither the character nor wisdom to execute and sustain. What if David, once he knew he was to be King, had immediately deserted his herd of sheep on the back side of the mountain and rushed down to take his throne? He would have been slaughtered… Much like many of our gifted but woefully prepared Pastors and church leaders are being slaughtered by their own unresolved issues and spiritual immaturity today.

I would think we would all be far less anxious to anoint or declare someone any role or title and much less ready to bestow a title upon ourselves. What purpose does it serve if the presence and power of the Lord are already present? I say seek the Lord and not leaders. Seek God and recognize that God is God enough to use anyone at any time as a guide, title or no. God’s choice to speak through a donkey did not make the donkey a Pastor, Preacher, Apostle, Bishop, or anything else… the donkey was still a donkey.

We need to get this straight: God’s presence, power, and provision are invoked by the “seeker” and NOT the “speaker”. You have the power fam… ever since that curtain in the inner most holy of holy’s was torn down… you have the authority and responsibility to BE the power and love of God wherever you are and with whomever you wish. I promise you, you don’t need a title for that.

5000 people in a church… and only 1 Pastor among them? We need to stop engendering this spectator sport mentality. We need to stop creating Christians who feel powerless without recognition and/or approval from the elite in the Body. I believe this is why so few Christians really study and understand the Bible. They’ve been convinced that’s only for Preachers, Teachers, Pastors etc…

Ultimately, we are all called to pastor, even if everyone is not to be “Pastors”. And in that way I am called to be a pastor, just as much as you and every other Christian is called. Just study to be ready and be available to God to do God’s work wherever you might be. The only title that really matters is “Good and Faithful Servant.”

Thanks for listening. I hope that answered your question.

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Ask me anything… Relationships, Faith, Marriage, Life, etc…

I expect my husband will be my best friend, first.How do I go about establishing healthy, pure friendships w/ opposite sex? What boundaries? What standards if I desire friendship & a marriage that honors God? Should I go out? Should I give my number?

Hey sis, please forgive me for the delayed response. So let’s get right to it… Yes, it is reasonable to expect that your husband will be your best friend… at some point, but sis it rarely starts out that way. But the good news is that it is a part of the promise that is built into the chemistry of a marriage submitted to God. If the two of you are both fully committed/submitted to God’s model for marriage then that “oneness” definitely includes becoming best friends. That part of your comment is entirely reasonable, the other parts however…

Sis, if you don’t plan to marry someone you already know then how do you get to know new people if you won’t take the time to get to know them? I’m confused by this line of thought in your comment… You said yourself you want to be friends “first”, right? I would assume that would mean you need to be open to making new friends before even considering for a moment whether or not they are husband material… and based on the premise of this question it is also safe to say you’ll need to make some new male friends, even if they are of the dreaded “opposite sex”. Lol, j/k sis.

Now that all brings us to the part of your question about boundaries, standards, invitations, and sharing your phone #. These were the other questions from your comment:

1. How do I go about even establishing healthy, pure friendships with the opposite sex?
2. What boundaries do I establish?
3. What should my standards be if I desire both a friendship and ultimately a marriage that honors God?

Questions 1, 2, and 3 can all be answered together… My answer? Relax. Don’t assume every man you meet is potentially your husband. Which means if we are really just talking about “friendships” and not dating “exclusively” you can ditch the marriage “standards” for now, it just doesn’t belong in friendships. It puts too much pressure on them, too much pressure on you, and most likely makes you come across as desperate.

Women think they are slick and can hide their eagerness in this area… NOT. Men can feel the heat and if it is detected early in a “friendship” the woman comes across as a wedding hunter looking for any man that might fit the bill as opposed to a Queen awaiting a King. Don’t be that lady. I did say relax right? Well if I didn’t… Relax. You need to take this unnecessary pressure off of your friendships. Be yourself. Understand that 99 out of 100 men won’t be husband material and 90 out of 100 of them won’t even be good friend material.

This is one reason why so many women get tired of “looking”… they waste so much time and energy trying to qualify/disqualify every man they meet. Take your time and men will qualify/disqualify themselves.

Also, to establish healthy pure relationships it requires two people who actually both have that same intention. At this point sis, a pure, healthy friendship doesn’t sound like your truest intention so you can’t establish pure relationships until you change your motivation for wanting male friends. Until you are really just looking for a “friend” you probably won’t find one. The old adage holds true to have a friend you must first show yourself to be a friend. If you want men who are “just friends” you have to make sure that’s how you are viewing/approaching the relationship from day 1, as “just friends”. If there’s even the slightest hint of something else in the back of your mind, then a pure friendship is not what you are after.

As for boundaries? Boundaries are a function of each unique relationship combination, as well as the maturity of that specific relationship. Boundaries are very personal. And in most cases they are ultimately a matter of each person’s own moral code, comfort level, and belief systems. But to simplify matters, just use this barometer… if it makes you uncomfortable in anyway, that’s too far. I say that because the boundary for one friend may be entirely different for the boundary you set for a different friend. Set your boundaries in each relationship specifically for what you are comfortable with in that relationship, with that person, at that time.

4. Should you accept invitations out? Absolutely… assuming again you are comfortable with the person, place, time, and intent in each situation. Again, how will you get to know this new “friend” you’re looking for if you don’t spend some time with some new people?

5. Should you give men your number? Only the ones you are comfortable with. Maybe, if you have real concerns in this area, you should get yourself a pre-paid phone for $30 or $40 /mo and give that number out instead of your primary #.

Bottom line here in all of this sis is you need to be clear and sure about what you are looking for… If you really want new male friends, you’ll have to figure out how to actually be friendly. NOT flirty. NOT needy. NOT desperate… Just friendly. The best way to do that is to figure out what your passions are in life and get busy doing those things. Most healthy friendships are born out of mutual interests and experiences. Painting, biking, music, community service, community theatre, cooking, etc… find what you love to do and get active in it. There will be men there that love the same things and making new friends won’t be so stressful.

I hope that helps sis.

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Ask me anything… Relationships, Faith, Marriage, Life, etc…

Tell me your thoughts on adult children who still depend on some level of support from their parents/families. In a culture that so values independence, have we gotten away from the interdependent extended family where resources are pooled?

My thoughts on this subject are broad and varied because there are literally hundreds of possible variables and circumstances. Let’s talk family situation, parental income and net worth, family tradition, education, location, situation, duration, ambition, work history, financial responsibility, financial accountability, children, grand children, health, disability, employability,… the list just goes on and on. There’s just no one-size-fits-all in this case.

Now on to your second question, “Have we gotten away from the interdependent extended family where resources are pooled?” Absolutely, we have and there are a number of reasons not the least of which are education, location, and vocation. Historically, our families were deeply rooted in highly condensed areas of extended family members. Further, we were much more of an agrarian society than we are now and “helping out” often meant sharing food grown in our own yards or some sort of manual labor. Both of which were immediately recognizable and appreciated by both the giver and the receiver.

As we moved away and took on jobs in big cities we lost the benefits of sweat equity and the only thing people want now is money. Before, we always had another gallon of sweat we could donate. But we don’t have an endless supply of money. Further, complicating the issues are the feelings of separation and isolation that come with moving to far flung reaches of the country… only to call home when someone is in trouble or needs money.

So yes, we have most definitely gone away from pooling resources, because the only “resource” people seem to care about now is money… and money doesn’t “pool” nearly as well as sweat equity.

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Ask me anything… Personal, Spiritual, Professional, etc…

As a young man graduated from college, my wallet has goals but is empty. I find many young women have what I didn’t. Parents that set more of a foundation for women to step onto than myself. How patient should I be in setting my own foundation?

Hey doc, first let me congratulate you and encourage you. You have graduated college… that alone is to be commended. Far too many young men get caught up in all sorts of foolery on their way to where you are now. Congratulations! And although you believe your parents were unable to “set more of a foundation” for you I would beg to differ. I can tell a few things about you just from this post.

First… you chose to ask me your question. Which means you are at least open to what you must surely know is my Faith based perspective on everything. I would venture so far as to say that you must at least appreciate and respect my Biblical perspective. And to me sir… that’s the ONLY foundation that really matters. I bet your parents had something to do with that. And besides, what’s in a man’s pockets can’t compare on any level to what’s in his heart. And any woman that doesn’t know that, isn’t woman enough to call your wife anyway. Look at it this way, your situation is actually protecting you from the wolves and gold diggers.

So the fact that you don’t have any money right now is actually to your advantage. As hard as this may be to believe, you’d much rather find a woman now who can see you with spiritual eyes rather than financial ones. You obviously have aspirations and will one day handle this money issue… I pray that you have met and married your wife before then, because once you have money it is almost impossible to decipher a woman’s true intentions. And any woman who is worthy of your money is willing to live without it just to be with you. Let those women ready to ovulate on financial portfolios say what they will, you are blessed my friend.

So, my recommendation is that you first change your definition of “foundation.” I would say the foundation you really need to be working on is that of a man of God and a husband. Prepare your heart and prepare your life as much as you can for a woman who is woman enough to truly see you for who you are. She’s a different kind of woman so she’ll be looking for a much different kind of “foundation.” She’ll be looking to follow a man that is looking to follow God. That’s the foundation you’ll need.

The Bible tells us that if we seek the Kingdom of God and his righteousness first all that other stuff will be added to us… It’s true bruh. It worked for me… and I was fortunate enough to find my wife when I was broke just like you. All I had was a heart for God, a strong work ethic, and incredible potential… She could see that. And that’s enough for any woman worthy to be called your wife for the rest of your life. Hope that helps my friend.

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Ask me anything… Personal, Spiritual, Professional, etc…

I’ve been dating a guy for 9 months. We decided we would like to relocate to Florida (he is originally from there). Problem: I am currently in Florida and he is back in Atlanta looking for a job here. Question: How long should I wait it out?

Honestly, there’s no way for me or anyone else to answer that question for you… You are obviously 9 mos into a relationship that you feel strongly enough about to have agreed to relocate together. And by “relocating” I assume that means you’ll be getting a place together and going half on the bills? If that’s true sis you’ve obviously already made some very major decisions about who you are, what you want, and what you are willing to risk. And that’s really what this question is about, Risk vs. Reward. And no one can possibly know how much risk you’re comfortable with but you.

However, the fact that you’re asking me how long you should wait implies that you are already getting a little nervous about the arrangement. I would think that is a strong indicator of how you really feel in your heart about the level of risk to which you are currently exposing yourself. Asking this question clearly indicates that you are trying to figure out how much risk is reasonable… But sis this isn’t a question of reasonable it is a question of comfortable.

Bottom line here is that I would trust my instincts and play it safe. There is much about this situation that would make the average woman very uncomfortable. For example you seem to be skipping a step or two in the development of your relationship. Assuming you’ve been dating long distance for 9 mos, you really have no clue who this guy really is. It would seem to me a more logical next step would be for him to move to where you are and get his own place. No need to move in together… none at all, at least not right now. There’s a whole entire stage of the relationship that is missing, but very critical to the development of your trust and respect for each other.

Please understand that all I can offer you at this point is my opinion. And unfortunately there are far too many missing variables in this equation for anyone other than you to come up with the answer for which you are looking. Based on the decisions you’ve already made you are clearly dancing to you own tune and can wait as long as you like… it’s your song sis and no one else can possibly know what’s going on in your head. But if you are uncomfortable for any reason give that your strongest consideration.

One last parting thought, as a general rule I recommend to everyone woman who aspires to be a wife that she shouldn’t sign up to “act” like one until she is one. But that’s a personal choice and a matter of faith so no one can make that decision for you but you sis.

I know that’s not much to go on, but this really is a question you are going to have to answer for yourself. I hope this helped you in some small way. Thanks for trusting me with your question.

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What advice do you have for women who have already experienced pre-marital sex, especially those women who have been divorced or widowed who already been exposed to "carnal knowledge?"

Wow… That’s a VERY tough question. It’s tough because I try very hard to give people answers that are both Biblical and practical. And I think this may be the first question where I don’t see a combination is workable.

Let’s start by getting the obvious stuff out of the way. Since you used a couple of “church”phrases in your question I am assuming you are, at the very least, a person of faith. And I will also assume that you are concerned with how this situation is affecting your faith, relationship with God, and very possibly your salvation.

So with those assumptions we can establish that you desire to live your life according to the Biblical constructs that you have learned over the years. This means that you now know and/or believe that sex outside of marriage is a sin. And you are correct, for Biblically based Christians it is indeed a sin. So I would also assume you are asking me this question because you are experiencing some shame and guilt associated with actions you believe in your heart to be against God’s will for you.

If all of that is correct, then there are really only two directions to go. #1, continue doing what you are doing/want to do and continue to deal with ever increasing guilt and shame until you learn how to block it out or no longer feel/acknowledge it. But because you are asking for advice I believe it’s safe to say that is not what you want. Good… This path leads to separation from God and a hardened heart neither of which I believe you want.

So that brings us to direction #2, “grow” away from the things that make you feel guilty and shameful. I’m sure you already know this and have possibly tried and failed to walk away from “carnal knowledge” because the lure of sex is very strong… particularly when sex is used as a coping mechanism to deal with other issues. And this is where the rubber meets the road. Sis, most of the time when we can’t control our sexual desires it is because we either use or wrongly associate sex with something else like love, acceptance, companionship, or sheer physical/emotional/psychological enhancers (like a drug).

Often people, both men and women, who experience very serious difficulties sticking to their own resolve in this area are dealing with some of the ‘not so obvious’ issues I mentioned. There is a level of sexual desire that is natural and normal, then there is a level that causes us to do things we REALLY, REALLY don’t want to do just so we can have sex… that’s not natural and that’s a problem.

If you are just dealing with normal natural desires I would recommend a lot of prayer, fasting, Bible study, patience, and some new hobbies. You need to distract yourself while you are getting stronger in your knowledge and convictions. God can deliver you but there is no guarantee it will be immediate. And out of love for you it probably won’t be. God created sex so He knows how pleasurable it is for us. And how difficult it is to deal with once you have been married before… So in addition to growing in spiritual and Biblical strength/knowledge I would also recommend you acquire some sexual toys that do the trick for you.

But sis please hear me… This is a LAST resort and a very slippery slope, but it is one that is open to you. (I know I’ll catch grief for saying that from the Puritan crowd, but whatever, I care more about helping you than what people might think of me.) I’m sure they’ll bring up the lust issue, abstinence, purity etc.. And they have valid points, you should pray and strive for those things which are possible, but also very challenging and often riddled with falls and restarts. In the meantime, you are obviously looking for the least guilty and shameful way to deal with your sexual desires. I think this may be as close as we can get to dealing with this situation before you get married again. And I personally would rather someone not get married just for sex.

But to be clear, sis, if the level of desire you’re dealing with has caused or if you believe it will cause you to do some things that are out of character, unhealthy, unsafe, and/or humiliating then I believe a Licensed Professional Counselor (which I am not) may be of great help to you. Bottom line: you may need someone to help you determine if this is REALLY just about sex or if it is about something much deeper (i.e. Lonliness, emotional and/or mental dependencies, misplaced feelings of love and companionship, etc…).

If it’s just sex, although very difficult, it’s pretty straight forward. You need to grow stronger in your knowledge and convictions about sex outside of marriage to fight the “carnal knowledge” you mentioned. And I don’t care what folks tell you sis… it’s NOT just you. Read Romans Chapter 7 and you’ll see that you are definitely not alone in your struggle.

Sis I know I don’t have a clear cut answer for you, but I knew this would be difficult. All I know is that the Lord promises us that He will put no more on us than we can bear. Yours is a heavy load I do not ever wish to carry, so I dare not judge you. I just pray that you continue to seek the Lord’s Will in this and other areas of your life. My wife and I will say a prayer specifically for you sis… I hope something here was of some help to you.

Ask me anything… Personal, Spiritual, Professional, etc…